I don't care what people think!!

It amazes me how often my clients say they don't care what other people think. This usually accompanies a string of socially unacceptable behavior such as infidelity, stalking, and bitterness. After I listen to their rants with a nonjudgmental ear or eye, I try to help them realize that regardless of how they feel, deep down they do care what other people think. People make society, and unless we live on a deserted island, other people have limited power to influence our thoughts, emotions and physicals lives. In general, it is the judge who decides our fate in court, it is the co-workers who help our jobs feel tolerable, and it is our friends and family who we use as confidantes. If everyone you come into contact with you began to ostracize you because of a particular choice or behavior, you could no longer convince yourself that other's opinions do not matter. There is no escape when other people are privy to information that you choose to divulge. I have seen many driven into depression because they were not accepted in their community. I am not telling you to blindly accept what others say and do, but you cannot fool yourself into believing that you will not seek out another group that will take you as one of their own. Individually we contribute to a world body that works as a unit. When we stray from this body, we open ourselves deceit and dishonestly because of a personal desire. Remember everyone, be true to yourself and realize that you need others.

Meet people of quality, not quantity.